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McKinsey: Observe More and React Less

July 18, 2016

originalManish Chopra’s article,Want To Be A Better Leader? Observe More And React Less in a recent issue of the McKinsey Quarterly gives a strong testimonial for the benefits of meditation. Its great practical reinforcement for what positive psychology experts and researchers have to say about mindfulness and leadership.

Wayne Greenway is Senior Partner with Career Aviators, a social purpose business that directs all profit to innovative youth leadership initiative in Guelph. He is passionate about helping people to find jobs in which they will excel, value highly and love to do. Learn more

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A Rant: Searching For Your Dream Job

July 18, 2016

Your “dream job” does not exist but a job that fits; one that you will excel at, value highly and love to do is always out there.The trouble with striving to find a “dream job” is that the ideal job today, could be tomorrow’s nightmare. Life is tough and a new bully boss or any number of other factors could change that job instantly.

It is not about the job. It is about you. Its about constantly taking stock of your strengths and your values; the ones that you know that you shouldn’t change. Its about figuring what conditions in a job will bring you happiness; knowing what you want the career to do for you and what you want to bring to it.

On the job, its more than just being an excellent leader in your day to day work. It is being known and respected for being empathetic with those around you. This enables you to jointly seek out collaborative and innovative ways to improve what you do, while building a strong network of contacts within and outside the company. This makes you successful in your work and ready should a career change be in order.

With this as your central guide and with a focused and flexible attitude, you can nimbly shift to another job that will bring you happiness.

I believe that saying and thinking you are searching for your “dream job” puts too much emphasis on the job and not enough emphasis on you. Too much focus on the “dream job” can leave you angry at the job for not being right any more when conditions change.

Happiness is often found in the face hardship and change when you stand for who you are and what you want going foreword.

Wayne Greenway is Senior Partner with Career Aviators, a social purpose business that directs all profit to innovative youth leadership initiative in Guelph. He is passionate about helping people to find jobs in which they will excel, value highly and love to do. Learn more

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“It’s The Space Between The Notes That Makes The Music”

July 16, 2016

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On a human scale, creating this same kind space in our life adds to our resilience and is the essence of Mark Manson’s recent article “3 Ideas That Could Change Your Life” As we become more resilient we can be stronger more helpful members of our community.

Do you get nervous before a job interview or a presentation? Do you get creatively blocked? Has worry about your business ever got in the way of good decision making? Does reviewing what happened around a difficult situation with yourself or others only makes you feel more upset? When you are angry at someone, have you ever noticed yourself pulling in all the past mistakes they have done to back up how wrong the person really is now? Do you ever try to stop feeling a certain way but it just does not make you feel any better?

In his article, Manson distills down some of the essential components in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to point out that “Most of our psychological and emotional stress happens because our Thinking Mind and Observing Mind are “fused” and we don’t recognize the difference.”

The thinking mind looks after all your judgments, beliefs thoughts, memories etc. More importantly, it stores all the stories we have about ourselves. The ones we seldom question that began forming when we were very young but may be no longer valid.

The observing mind enables us to be aware of whatever we are thinking or feeling or doing at any moment. Many of us are unaware of our observing mind but it can be developed through Yoga, Meditation, Mindfulness and other similar practices.

We don’t have much control of our thinking minds says Manson. “The Thinking Mind is always chattering away, while you’re waiting in line, while you’re in bed trying to sleep, when you “tune out” of conversations with people, or when your mind wanders while reading” says Manson

When fusion between the two minds takes place, we “identify with” or “become” the feeling. Then we get stuck, fight it or run away from it. “The fact that you and I can think, reflect on the past, imagine the future, even to be conscious of our own consciousness is what distinguishes humans from all other animals. The fact that you and I can think, reflect and so often regret the past, imagine and so often fear the future, even to be unconscious of our own capacity to be conscious is the biggest curse humans live with and so try to escape from almost continually” explains Russ Davies in his website on ACT

Many writers suggest a range of methods to tame the thinking mind but stopping or derailing the chatter within us is often futile.  Instead, Davies and Manson suggest that by accepting the running thoughts as though they were background music, or the ticker tape at the stock market, one can attend to the observing mind with its opportunities to move forward in positive and constructive way.

In addition to increasing one’s sense of presence or mindfulness, just changing our day to day language can play a powerful role in unlocking the thinking mind from the observing mind. For example, a small language change such saying “I have a feeling of anger towards Mary” instead of “I am angry at Mary” is enough to unlock the fusion. I am angry at Mary leads into the trap of identifying with the anger. Whereas, “I have a feeling of anger towards Mary means that you are viewing the anger though the observing mind. You can notice it and let it run and choose to move forward in the face of it.

Once the fusion is unlocked it creates the space to leave the strong feelings behind and to start moving step by step towards a happier, more productive and prosperous life. Both articles are a good read!

Wayne Greenway is Senior Partner with Career Aviators, a social purpose business that directs all profit to innovative youth leadership initiative in Guelph. He is passionate about helping people to find jobs in which they will excel, value highly and love to do. Learn More

You Are In Good Company It You Are Flailing About

July 8, 2016

The most interesting aspect of this infographic is that there is no common pattern to the ideal daily routine of the top creative people in the world. In his book, Daily Rituals: How Artists Work Daily Rituals: How Artists Work,  Mason Currey presents the lives of 161 creative minds to explore “how, exactly, they made the time each day to do their work” and he could find no common pattern! In a blog post on Daily Rituals in State it is encouraging that he writes  ” At the very least, I hope you’ll find some comfort in these examples. Even the so-called great minds flailed about, made false starts, endured blocks and dry spells, obsessed over trivialities, and wasted huge chunks of time. If this sounds like you—well, you’re in good company.”

Wayne Greenway is the Senior Partner with Career Aviators, a national firm that specialises in helping professionals to advance their careers. All profit from Career Aviators is directed to innovative youth leadership initiative in Guelph Ontario.

Data are from Mason Currey’s book DAILY RITUALS. Order it from Amazon and learn more at Mason’s site. The original poster is below for link reference

Info We Trust is a data adventure exploring how to better humanize information. To learn more read the opening post here. The creator, RJ Andrews, is an engineer and proud Northeastern University and MIT graduate. Please reach out through facebook, twitter @infowetrust, or the contact page.

Musings On Life, Work And Leisure

June 13, 2016

Have you ever noticed just how happy you are if you have had a chance to  participate in Guelph Ontario’s  Minga Skill Building Hub’s many courses?

Scientists in positive psychology now know more about why these kind of activities bring us happiness: the course likely gave you some positive feelings; you were likely very engaged in the activity; you probably enjoyed the company of other participants in the course; the course had meaning for you beyond yourself (perhaps for those who will enjoy your new found skill or the ongoing difference you can now make in the environment); the course surely gave you a sense of accomplishment; and you felt energized by your participation. These kinds of qualities combine in any experience to bring us the happiness one experience’s in Minga’s courses.

We seek these qualities in our leisure activities and our life at home. Why is it that so many of us don’t experience these qualities in our work?

Some experts say that as many as 80% of the workers are misplaced in their employment. Yet, we often passively accept that 50% of the time that we are awake, during our most productive years is spent in something that does not fit!

“So often in life, it is not what we do that we regret, rather what we don’t do that we regret the most. Things like not making a change when we knew a change was in order, or not taking the appropriate steps to move into a situation that would lend itself to a more fulfilling life both personally and professionally” says Kathleen Gage in a recent blog post on LifeWithConfidence.com

Why don’t most of us change our employment to bring us as much happiness as our activities outside of work? Perhaps this summer is a good time to see if your job is bringing you happiness? Here is a quick quiz to get you thinking.

Think about your career and measure how much you agree with each of the following statements:

1= no agreement  to 7=complete agreement

  1. My work has some playfulness and fun in it.
  2. I frequently get fully absorbed in what I am doing at work
  3. I enjoy being with my co workers and supervisors
  4. My work brings me a sense of meaning beyond myself
  5. I have opportunities to feel a sense of accomplishment in my work
  6. My work energizes me

Although not scientific, this quiz may give you insight into how happy you may be in your current situation. A high score might indicate that your work is a good fit for you and that you are experiencing happiness in your work. A low score could create an opportunity for you to reflect on your current situation and ways to get the most out of your life at work.

If you want some help, join us in a two day retreat will help you design a career and a life worth living  — A life with meaning, happiness and job that you look forward to going to each day.

Wayne Greenway is Senior Partner with Career Aviators, a social purpose business that directs all profit to innovative youth leadership initiative in Guelph. He is passionate about helping people to find jobs in which they will excel, value highly and love to do. 

Begin Doing What You Want To Do Now

June 13, 2016

Maria Stenvinkel starts out her incredibly helpful blog post “How to Find the Courage to Quit Your Unfulfilling Job” with a quote from Francis Bacon Sr. “Begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand-and melting like a snowflake.”  and the wisdom continues throughout her excellent post. Its just too powerful and concise to attempt to summarize.  If you are unhappy in your job this is a “must read” for staying strong, present and living by choice than by chance.

Wayne Greenway is Senior Partner with Career Aviators, a social purpose business that directs all profit to innovative youth leadership initiative in Guelph. He is passionate about helping people to find jobs in which they will excel, value highly and love to do.  He is excited about partnering with Minga Skill Building Hub to lead The Authentic Career Retreat, unique in Canada for its cost effective, integrated one-on-one consultation, classroom and experiential format.

Living Life To The Fullest

March 7, 2016

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